Helping People Create Change Since 2010
1,000+ Coaching Sessions With Clients Worldwide
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What Is Divorce Coaching?
Divorce can bring up fear, anger, grief, uncertainty, and decisions you never expected to have to make.
Divorce coaching gives you a place to step out of the emotional intensity and think more clearly about what you want, how you want to handle difficult conversations, and who you want to be as you move through the process.
I help you recognize the triggers and patterns that can pull you into reacting, overexplaining, people-pleasing, fighting, or making decisions from fear.
We can work on boundaries, communication, co-parenting, difficult interactions with your former partner, and the emotional side of letting go and moving forward.
The goal isn’t to make divorce easy. It’s to help you move through it with greater clarity, self-trust, and intention.
Where You May Feel Stuck
Do Any of These Sound Familiar?
Divorce can bring up emotions, decisions, and conflicts you never expected to face. Here are some of the ways you may be feeling stuck.
Everything Feels Emotional
One conversation, text, or comment from your former partner can send you into anger, fear, guilt, or second-guessing yourself.
You Don’t Know What’s Reasonable
You’re trying to make important decisions while wondering whether you’re asking for too much, giving up too much, or reacting emotionally.
Communication Keeps Going Sideways
Even simple conversations about schedules, money, the house, or the kids quickly become tense, defensive, or unproductive.
You’re Worried About the Kids
You want to protect your children without putting them in the middle or making them responsible for the emotions between you and your former partner.
You’re Struggling to Let Go
Even if you know the relationship needs to end, you may still be grieving what you hoped it would be or struggling with rejection, anger, guilt, or regret.
You’re Afraid of What Comes Next
Your marriage may have shaped your identity, family, finances, friendships, and future. Now you’re trying to figure out what your life looks like from here.
Meet Wendy
I Know How Much the Way You Divorce Matters
When I went through my own divorce, my boys were 12 and 15. As a mother, one of the things that mattered most to me was protecting them from being caught in the middle of what was happening between their father and me.
My ex-husband and I were able to maintain a fairly amicable divorce, but that didn’t happen by accident.
I became very conscious of what I said about their father, what I implied without saying directly, and what I allowed my boys to carry. Even when I was hurt or frustrated, I tried to separate my feelings about the marriage from their relationship with their dad.
I also learned that being respectful doesn’t mean giving in. You can be compassionate and still be firm. You can set boundaries without turning the other person into the enemy. And you can acknowledge your own hurt without asking your children to take sides.
That experience has deeply influenced the way I work with people going through divorce today.
Since 2010, I’ve helped clients navigate the emotional patterns, difficult conversations, boundaries, parenting decisions, and uncertainty that can come with the end of a relationship.
You may not be able to control how the other person handles the divorce. But you can decide how you want to move through it.
What Working Together Looks Like
You don’t have to figure out every decision on your own. We’ll start with what’s happening now, identify where you’re getting stuck, and focus on the conversations, decisions, and emotional patterns that need your attention most.
Clarity Call
We start with a free 30-minute conversation about what’s going on, what you’d like help with, and whether working together feels like the right fit.
Ready to talk about what’s going on? Start with a free Clarity Call.
What Changes When You Do This Work
Divorce may still be difficult. But it doesn’t have to dictate how you think, react, or show up.
- You become less reactive when your former partner says or does something that triggers you.
- You communicate more clearly without overexplaining, attacking, or automatically giving in.
- You get more confident about your boundaries and the decisions that are yours to make.
- You become more intentional about protecting your children from adult conflict.
- You begin separating what you can control from what you can’t.
- You start letting go of guilt, resentment, and the need for your former partner to understand or agree with you.
- You begin rebuilding a life that feels like your own.
Client Stories
In Their Own Words
Wendy has transformed the way I communicate both personally and professionally. Wendy’s coaching style has given me the practical tools I needed to navigate tough situations with empathy….Read more
I can’t recommend Wendy highly enough! She has been an absolute gift during one of the most challenging times in my life. Her guidance is insightful, practical, and delivered with such genuine warmth and care that you….Read more
Your work with us has strengthened our marriage to levels that neither of us has seen in previous marriages and we are eternally grateful. The most important things y….Read more
I’ve really enjoy working with Wendy. What I appreciate most is how direct and practical her approach is. It’s not the typical surface-level “How does that make you feel?” coaching. She uses real-life ex….Read more
Common Questions
Questions About Divorce Coaching
Still have a question? Get in touch.
What does a divorce coach do?
As a divorce coach, I help you navigate the emotional and interpersonal side of divorce. We can work on communication with your former partner, boundaries, co-parenting, difficult decisions, triggers, grief, anger, guilt, and how you want to move forward. I don’t make legal decisions for you or replace an attorney. My role is to help you think more clearly and respond more intentionally during an emotionally difficult time.
When should I start working with a divorce coach?
You don’t have to wait until divorce papers have been filed. I work with people who are considering divorce, preparing to separate, actively going through the divorce process, or adjusting to life after the marriage has ended.
Can divorce coaching help with co-parenting?
Yes. A major part of my work can be helping you communicate with your co-parent more effectively, set boundaries, reduce unnecessary conflict, and make choices that keep your children out of the middle as much as possible.
Can I work with a divorce coach if my former partner won’t participate?
Absolutely. Divorce coaching does not require your spouse or former partner to participate. Much of the work is about understanding your own patterns and triggers, deciding how you want to respond, and becoming clearer about what is and isn’t within your control.
Can divorce coaching help me decide whether to get divorced?
If you’re uncertain about your marriage, I can help you slow down and look more clearly at what’s happening, what you’ve tried, what keeps repeating, and what you actually want. I won’t tell you whether to stay or leave. The goal is to help you make that decision from greater clarity rather than fear, pressure, or reactivity.
How can divorce coaching help me handle difficult conversations with my ex?
Divorce can make even practical conversations feel emotionally charged. I help you recognize what gets triggered in you, get clearer about what you actually want to communicate, and respond without getting pulled into the same argument or dynamic. We can also work through specific texts, conversations, boundaries, or decisions so you can be thoughtful about what you say, what you don’t say, and when it may be better not to engage.
Please do not use “What is the difference between a divorce coach and a divorce attorney?” I don’t think that reflects the level of questions my clients are coming to me with.
You Don’t Have to Navigate Divorce Alone
Whether you’re considering divorce, in the middle of it, or trying to figure out what comes next, we can start with what’s happening right now.